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Published on May 30, 2008 By dynamaso In Blogging

I thought I'd update anyone who is interested in the bits and pieces happening in my life at the moment.  This is not too exciting but as I've only really posted comments and fiction of late, I thought I'd write a bit about my life for a change.

I've been wondering whether I'm going through some sort of midlife crisis.  I turn 45 at the end of June and I suppose if I due to have a midlife crisis, now is about the time.  Ha, to think I'm potentially about half way through this wonderful journey called life...  It has been quite a journey so far too but I have a feeling inside me that the next 45 years are going to be much better than the first 45, not that there was anything particularly wrong.  But for the first 20 years or so I was a child, then the next 20 years I think I spent trying to sort out what sort of adult I was going to be.  Now I know myself well enough to be able to say I'm comfortable (but not complacent) with who I am and what I believe.  What makes life so much more invigorating is that I'm sharing mine with someone I love deeply and completely and know the feeling is reciprocated.  This has been the secret to my happiness, for sure.  She is a gem, to say the least.

I've also recently made some pretty radical changes to my lifestyle.  I've given up smoking and taken up exercising.  It has now been two months since Toni and I stopped smoking and we're really loving the benefits.  Our clothes don't smell, our house and car doesn't smell and scents I would have previously missed are making my olfactory life much more interesting. 

This week, I started working with a personal trainer (a great bloke called Aaron but who will now be known as The Torturemaster or TTM, for short).  He gave me a preliminary fitness check and said straigt up that he though I was doing very well (I have a funny feeling he was going to suffix this with "for someone my age" but am glad he didn't

I was particularly pleased to see I'd put on some good weight (I'm nearly 80 kilos (176 pounds), which is the heaviest I've ever been) and am aiming for between 83 and 85 kilos (between 183 and 187 pounds).  According to TTM, this is the 'ideal' weight for someone of my height.  I'd be happy just to break the 82 kilo (180 pound) mark.  I was also pleased to hear my body fat is really quite low, which means most of my weight is muscle mass.  This pleases me no end because although I'm not a vain person, I do like to look good for my lovely wife.  Hey, and there is nothing wrong with being buff either.  I'm not ready to put up photos but will do once my six pack comes on  

Anyway, TTM really put me through my paces and for the last few days I've been SORE.  When I got out of bed on Thursday morning and did my usual stretch, my shoulders and chest were aching like never before.  TTM said this would be the case as it means my muscles have been worked hard and are repairing themselves.  At the time I said to him I just wanted to get fit, not break things but I have to admit, this is a good pain and I'm liking it a lot.  So now, apart from the hour or so of cardio I do at least three times a week, I will be adding a forty five minute weight training regime.  I'm determined to get fit even if it kills me

Speaking of pain, I've been back to see my tattooist a few times recently.  These sessions have been great as these are free form session of 90 minutes were he uses my arm as a canvas.  The work he is doing at the moment is all the black and grey shading aspects of the design.  I've not put up any pictures of it as I am going to wait until it is substantially down the track.  This way, those of you who have been checking out my progress will be able to really see where the design has advanced.  The great thing about these sessions is I really get to see the artist in him at work.  A lot of tattooing, for those who don't know, is done by first applying the design by way of a temporary transfer.  The artist then goes over the lines and fills in the colours.  Shading, as I'm having done, can't really be made into a transfer and relies more on the artist to interpret the wishes of his or her client and apply these to the tattoo on the fly.  So far, I'm absolutely blown away by the results.

Toni and I have spent the last few weekends getting a couple of garden beds ready for winter and spring crops.  We had a very large patch of Lantana along one fence in our back yard.  This is classed as a noxious weed here in Australia, so we decided we would get rid of it and use the space (a lovely, well drained spot that gets good morning sun) to plant beans and tomatos.  We also extended our other garden bed so we can grow more.  We're about to plant carrots and some herbs.  We'll also get some winter lettuce, spinach and whatever else is seasonal in as soon as we can.  The lantana proved to be a challenge and I've still got to get at the stump and pull it out.  We hired an electric hedge clipper for the day that made the job a lot easier but I still managed to scratch the heck out of my arms as I was doing the job.  The results, though, are wonderful and the back yard looks better already for having gotten rid of this pest.

The band, while not doing any live work of late, have been preparing to release our first mix tape.  This will be an interim release until we record the album later in the year and will mostly feature songs which we're not planning to put on the album.  We've also changed the name of the band, something we've been discussing for some time.  The reasons are simple; the previous name was actually the name of our MC, JC Ronikal.  He collaborated with another local MC early this year and has had a couple of tracks picked up for an international compilation, which is fantastic news but potentially confusing to those who don't know the difference.  The new name doesn't jump out at me but I am pleased we finally found something we could all agree on.  Once the new website is ready to go, I will let everyone know what it is so you can check out some of our new material.  And the new name: SEMI.  Let me know what you think (and be honest).

I'm really pleased some of you are reading and enjoying my serial fiction too.  I have to say the more I write, the more the story develops in my head.  This may well end up being my first attempt at a proper novel.  Is it normal for a story to occupy ones thoughts so much?  Maybe it is, maybe it isn't but I've never claimed to be normal anyway.  How boring...   Stay tuned for the next installment, which I hope to put up early next week.


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on May 30, 2008
Thanks for the update, Maso. It's good to hear that things are good.

And the new name: SEMI. Let me know what you think (and be honest).


I like it. But my first thought was, SEMI-what? Semi-circle? Semi-social? Semi-psychotic?

Anyway, just wanted to let you know that I came, I read, and it was good to hear that you all are doing well.
on May 30, 2008
Semi - Arsenio hall in "Coming to America"?

As for the update, sounds pretty good! I think you have reached the mid life "crises". It does not always entail going crazy. I was talking to my mother last week, and she said she hit it at 51 - young kids still at home (my youngest siblings were 13) and looking at what she had done with her life. I was a bit younger - and looked at my life as well. Half gone, half to go. And how much was wasted. Or better, unrealized. It is our nature that as young ones, we think of ourselves as immortal (in a relative sense), our few years seem like many and so many years to go to do what we want.

Then all of a sudden, we realize it is half gone, and we dont know where it went. I am happy to say that when I looked at my life, I saw a lot of wasted time and opportunities, but I also saw a lot of accomplishments. I had done something in my life that few get to do (beyond my 4 children) - created a huge network from the ground up. My Master Opus.

And that kind of depressed me. What was left? Fortunately, and it was good fortune, I was able to go on to bigger and better things (literally and figuratively). So while I have not created any more large networks (I had started small - 10 node and worked on several others of increasing size until the big one - 10,000+ node), I have been a part of the most convoluted network to ever grace (or curse) this planet! And have done a good job keeping it running. So my midlife was looking for what was next. And I found there is always something as long as you keep moving!

Good luck with your retrospection. I suspect when the "panic" of time slipping away subsides, you will see a great start to your life, one with many accomplishments to be proud of. And with enough time left to still do more.

In the words of my generation - Keep on Truckin!
on May 30, 2008
When I was younger I always thought mid-life crises were a myth. Just an excuse guys used. Now maybe I'm just in denial. Wouldn't be the first time. I think I might be vain enough to think nothing can touch me.

Congrats on the no smoking / more exercise regiment. That's super. Since I'm jealous you're actually out there doing it I hope TTM gets you good. Hey no pain no gain.

Cool news on your tats. Can't wait to see when it's all complete.

Rose and I wanted to get a little garden going in the back but we have 2 stumbling blocks preventing us from making a move. The first is Rose is like Dr.Death with plant life and I'm equal parts procrastinator and lazy ass.

Sorry mate but I'm not feeling the band name. I want to like it I really do.

Your serial fiction is awesome. I can see it easily being a novel. This may sound dumb but it's protected, right? Some asshole can't come in here and steal it for his own, right?

Thanks for the update, Mark.
on May 30, 2008
Here you go, Maso . . .

on May 30, 2008
It sounds like weight-wise we're going to meet in the middle. I'm at 180 now! And I can actually see abs without squinting!

Oops! Gotta go! My boys say they are starvin' Marvin and I'm supposed to make spagetti tonight. More later...
on May 30, 2008

well Maso it's good to know a bit more about you.  I see you and I are close in age. I'm just a tad ahead of you. 

Kudos to the smoke free environment and replacing it with nice healthy exercise.  I find exercise can be addicting as well but at least it's good for you. 

It's funny you mentioned Lantana because I was thinking of getting me some.  It's pretty common down here in Florida not ever hearing about it when I was up north.  I heard it blooms most of the year here and I thought that would be a good thing.  Why don't you like it?  So far I've only seen small batches of it and am unsure how it looks fully grown. 

I'm also thinking of planting beans again.  Had lots of beans back North but so far down here all I've planted is tomatoes in pots.  Working out well but fresh beans sound good to me as well. 

Good luck in your second half of life.  Hopefully with your new health changes you'll live long and healthy. 

on May 30, 2008

SanCho,

Thanks for the update, Maso. It's good to hear that things are good.

Thanks mate.  Things are great (except for the 'good' aches and pains I'm feeling at the moment)

I like it. But my first thought was, SEMI-what? Semi-circle? Semi-social? Semi-psychotic?

I guess this is what the others found appealing about the name.  It was genre-specific and doesn't really mean anything.  But then, maybe that is part of the problem with the name too, if you know what I mean.

Anyway, just wanted to let you know that I came, I read, and it was good to hear that you all are doing well.

And thanks for commenting and for the comic.  Given some of the other suggestions for a band name, which will never be mentioned, I'm kind of pleased we settled on this one.

on May 30, 2008
More later...


Okay, I'm back (and saited on spagetti -and yes, I know I misspelled it   ). Continuing on: congrats on the time spent so far on NOT smoking. Turst me, I know how hard that is to do. It's been over ten years and I STILL dream about 'em! Weird!

I dunno. I think SEMI sounds kinda cool. Go with it!  
on May 30, 2008

Doc,

Semi - Arsenio hall in "Coming to America"?

I'm guessing this was his character name.  And 'Coming To America' is an Eddie Murphy movie, right?  I don't think I've seen it but then I'm not an Eddie Murphy fan.  Arsenio Hall is alright though. 

As for the update, sounds pretty good! I think you have reached the mid life "crises". It does not always entail going crazy.

Actually, going crazy is not something that worries me.  Some of the best people I know are crazy as loons (Maso waves like mad at Roy and a few others here )  My biggest concern is becoming complacent.  I see so many around me who have reached a point in their lives where nothing really 'gets' to them and they loose their passion for everything.  I don't ever want to be like that.

So my midlife was looking for what was next. And I found there is always something as long as you keep moving!

You've done a lot to be proud of, Doc.  And I'm sure you've got plenty of exciting things to come too.  And I agree with you about keeping moving except with one addition and that is as long as the movement is forward.

I suspect when the "panic" of time slipping away subsides, you will see a great start to your life, one with many accomplishments to be proud of. And with enough time left to still do more. In the words of my generation - Keep on Truckin!

There is no panic about it, more surprise I'm here, I believe.  The last number of years, particularly those spend with Toni, have blessed me with the presence of mind to be truely thankful for who I am and what I have.

Thanks for your considered comment, my friend.

on May 30, 2008

I love being updated on my friends.

You said you were planting winter and spring crops. What kind of winter do you have where you live? As far as the Lantana goes. I lived in Lantana, Fl. for a bit. It's in Palm Beach county. They are all over the place down there.

The band name, I don't hate it or love it, but when I hear you that will be all that matters.

It is so awesome that you have quit smoking. What a great accomplishment that is in and of itself.  I also love your serial killer series and like the others say it could be a best seller. I already told you I can see it as a movie.

Have a great weekend.

on May 30, 2008

Dunno about the band name...it just doesn't excite me for some reason.

The thing about band names (and I've been responsible for a few over the years) is that people either like them or they don't.  With this name, the only guidelines I had were I didn't want it to be long and/or convoluted, like some of the bands around at the moment.  I kind of think the name, as names go, is okay but as I said, it doesn't really jump out at me. 

I love getting tattooed, wish I could afford more work.

The funny thing is while I'm getting this job done, I'm already planning for the next job (a largish piece to go on my rib cage under my right arm. 

Congrats on giving up the smokes,

Thanks.  Without wanting to sound smug, it was a lot easier than I thought it was going to be but then, we weren't heavy smokers to begin with so I suppose this made it easier.  Good luck with trying to get Simon and yourself off them.  I do hope you are able to as I can highly recommend it.  (Oh fuck, hope I don't sound like one of those awful reformed smokers?  There is nothing worse...)

Sorry I haven't kept up on your fiction, (or anyone else's for that matter)

No need to apologise (although I do appreciate it).  I know you've been going through some shit with your hand and all, which makes your comment here even more so appreciated.  As for the fiction, well I do hope you get to have a look at it at some point as I'd really like to see what you think of it. 

Great job on the garden! Everything I touch dies, my gawd I'm a plant killer. Good thing I don't have the same effect on pets, lol.

Thanks...  I really enjoy getting dirt on my hands.  Without sounding all greeny or hippy or whatever, there is something about it that just connects with me.

Be well, maso, just wanted to let ya know I stopped by.

Thanks very much, Sabrina.  I wish you and Simon the same and hope to see you back to your blogging best soon.

on May 30, 2008
And the new name: SEMI. Let me know what you think (and be honest).


Too vague. Like SanCho said...

SEMI-what? Semi-circle? Semi-social? Semi-psychotic?


...except I thought, "A truck? A half hard penis? Semi what?"

Then I wondered if it was band members' initials (my friends and I did that in high school to name a software company).


Is it normal for a story to occupy ones thoughts so much?


Yes.

Tell you what I hate... I've trained my subconscious to keep going over what I've written and offer up better alternatives for future drafts. That's great for work writing, but when it does it to personal letters I sent days earlier and I suddenly think of how much better I could have worded something? AAARRRGGGGHHH!!!!

on May 30, 2008

When I was younger I always thought mid-life crises were a myth. Just an excuse guys used. Now maybe I'm just in denial. Wouldn't be the first time. I think I might be vain enough to think nothing can touch me.

Ah, yes, I used to think I would escape this particular condition.  But I honestly beleive it to be something we ALL go through, even in some small way.  It is almost like a right of passage.

Congrats on the no smoking / more exercise regiment. That's super. Since I'm jealous you're actually out there doing it I hope TTM gets you good. Hey no pain no gain.

Thanks mate.  The no smoking thing is fabulous and I'm really enjoying getting fit too.  It is said sometimes the best changes don't come for free and if this means going through some pain to achieve the results I want, then I'm well prepared for it.  This, of course, well applies to being tattooed as well.

Rose and I wanted to get a little garden going in the back but we have 2 stumbling blocks preventing us from making a move. The first is Rose is like Dr.Death with plant life and I'm equal parts procrastinator and lazy ass.

  Toni used to say she had a knack for killing plants but her gardens flourish now.  Hopefully this will apply to Rose as well.  As for your procrastination, well you'll get over it sometime.  Or not...  Maybe... 

Sorry mate but I'm not feeling the band name. I want to like it I really do.

S'cool, mate.  I don't expect everyone to like the name.  As I said, it didn't really jump out at me either.  But I was happy just to have everyone all agree to it.  It meant we could move forward with our other plans.

Your serial fiction is awesome. I can see it easily being a novel. This may sound dumb but it's protected, right? Some asshole can't come in here and steal it for his own, right? Thanks for the update, Mark.

Thanks very much and I'm pleased you're enjoying it.  As for protection, well I guess the fact it is here and you've all seen it and read it and commented on it is protection enough.  Its not like someone could steal it and call it their own without alerting at least one of us to the fact.

on May 30, 2008

Roy,

It sounds like weight-wise we're going to meet in the middle. I'm at 180 now! And I can actually see abs without squinting! 

I was talking to someone at work the other day who suggested my ideal weight is not some figure someone else can decide.  Because I'm putting weight on the right way, my body will naturally stop where its supposed to do.  I'm not sure this is true but we'll wait and see. 

My stomach is definitely my weak point and TTM and I are going to start working on this very soon.  Oh, I'm not looking forward to it but I am too, if you know what I mean.  I know it is going to hurt lots but will be worth it in the long run.

Continuing on: congrats on the time spent so far on NOT smoking. Turst me, I know how hard that is to do. It's been over ten years and I STILL dream about 'em! Weird! I dunno.

To be honest, beyond the first few weeks, I haven't missed them at all.  Toni has had a couple of cravings at different points but nothing she can't handle.  I hope I'm not dreaming about them in ten years, though.  But then, maybe I'm weird too

I think SEMI sounds kinda cool. Go with it!

Thanks mate, for this and for your comments.

on May 30, 2008

KFC,

Kudos to the smoke free environment and replacing it with nice healthy exercise. I find exercise can be addicting as well but at least it's good for you.

Thanks very much.  As you point out, exercising IS addictive but in a good way.  I'm already trying to make changes to other parts of my life so I can exercise more.  Heck, I can't believe I just typed that...  Six months ago, I would have probably laughed if anyone suggested I'd be thinking like this.

It's funny you mentioned Lantana because I was thinking of getting me some. It's pretty common down here in Florida not ever hearing about it when I was up north. I heard it blooms most of the year here and I thought that would be a good thing. Why don't you like it?

Lantana has been declared a noxious pest in Australia as it voraciously overtakes and kills native species and there are no insects or animals in Australia to keep it from over running everything else.  Currently, it has over taken many millions of hectares of both grazing land and national parks.  It also poisons the soil it grows in, which prevents other species from growing along side it.

I'm also thinking of planting beans again. Had lots of beans back North but so far down here all I've planted is tomatoes in pots. Working out well but fresh beans sound good to me as well.

We have such a wonderful big back yard it seems silly not to grow some of our own vegetables in it.  Aside from the benefit we derive from getting our hands dirty and seeing produce from our work, it is part of our personal philosophy of doing what we can to help the environment.  And there is nothing quite like the taste of fresh vegetables you've grown yourself.

Good luck in your second half of life.  Hopefully with your new health changes you'll live long and healthy.

Thanks very much.  I'm so pleased we can see past our obvious differences and maintain a friendly connection.  Thanks for your comments and for stopping by.

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