Take a number and wait until you're called.
Published on November 25, 2008 By dynamaso In Blogging

My wife is away for a few days at her parent’s place. As she is the only child, and her folks are quite elderly, she likes to go there a couple of times a year and do all the big jobs they can’t manage. This is typical of her. I married an awesome lady.

I’ve run into a few mates around and about and they’ve asked after her, naturally. When I’ve told them where she is, their reactions have me a little puzzled. Their comments have been along the lines of ‘oh, yeah, so while the cat’s away, right, right…’ followed by knowing nods and winks.

I know what they’re saying. I also know what they’re implying. But I still don’t understand it. Are we men so shallow that as soon as our wives are out of sight, we’re scratching our bums in public and drinking out of the milk carton? Are we so under-her-thumb that as soon as she is away, we spend most of the time unshaven and in a drunken stupor.

I’m not thinking about getting drunk or doing anything I wouldn’t normally do. I’m not thinking about calling up ex-girlfriends or ordering pizza every night she is away. I am not a mouse looking for fun.

I am mostly thinking about her.

I miss her heaps. I miss the silence we love to share, the chatter about our days, updates on friends, family, the garden or whatever else is happening. I miss her warmth in bed and her smile when she sees me for the first time at the end of the day. I miss her hugs and kisses. I miss her.

So, what do I say to my friends, the ones with the sly comments and knowing nods. I smile and wink and nod back at them. They don’t need to know the truth. They probably wouldn’t understand anyway.


Comments
on Nov 25, 2008

Naw they wouldn't understand Mark.  Just ignore them when they make those comments.  I guess for some people, they are trying to be funny.  Anyway, it's so nice to see you!

on Nov 25, 2008

Serenity, good to see you too   As my previous post explained, I've been busy in real life hence the lack of my input here.

Now, I probably should have prefaced this post with an 'I am trying to be funny' subheading too.  I appreciate what you're saying though.  Thanks very much.

on Nov 26, 2008

I am sure she misses you too.  You know the old saying, "You don't know what ya got till it's gone?"  Well, hah, this is kinda like that except she'd not gone for good, and well, you know what ya got......um, so I guess it really isn't like that old saying at all.

 

on Nov 26, 2008

Tova,

Oh, I know she misses me.  And I know what I've got too.  But it is nice of you to say it anyway.  She is back today sometime.  I can hardly wait to see her (yes, I am a big softie and proud of it)

on Dec 01, 2008

 

Are we men so shallow that as soon as our wives are out of sight, we’re scratching our bums in public and drinking out of the milk carton? Are we so under-her-thumb that as soon as she is away, we spend most of the time unshaven and in a drunken stupor.

 Er, uhm...no comment.

on Dec 01, 2008

Er, uhm...no comment

This says more than any comment possibly could.  I guess the answer to the question would be an unequivocal y... arghhh... mmmphhh...  (Maso gets dragged away by the Gender Police to be reschooled in what men allow their women to know and what to keep secret).

on Dec 04, 2008

Good article, mate.

I really don't think your friends mean anything bad with the knowing nods and winks. Like you said they don't understand. I think you'll be surprised on how many don't.

Every Saturday my friends call me for a poker game(I already play on Mondays, some Wednesdays and a few Fridays)and I tell them I can't make it because I rather spent the day with Rose. Then it's like I have to explain myself to them on why I want to spend my day with my woman. I find it funny it's me doing the explaining when they should be explaining why they're never home with their significant others.

on Dec 04, 2008

Chris,

I know my friends don't mean anything by it, which, to me anyway, makes it all the more sillier.  But it also makes me wonder how they treat their significant others.

Between you and me, I would far rather spend time with Toni than with anyone else.  We have so much fun together and we're each others best friend.  I'm sure you're the same with about Rose.

on Dec 05, 2008

For a change, I will say - Toni has a winner!

Well done, mate.