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46…

I’ve been thinking a lot about this number lately. It is the age I will be in June this year. I’ve had nearly 46 years on Earth and I’m still like a wide-eyed child about its workings, in some respects. I like this. I like that there is so much in the world that still amazes me. It encourages me to seek, to learn, to experience and grow.

What I don’t like is the myriad ways we turn can against each other. We seem so far removed from the days when we lived in the shadows of savagery, burning fires at night to keep the unknown at bay and fighting every day just to survive. While we may seem to be far removed, I look at some of the worst we do to each other and it looks as though we’re only ever one step away from reverting to those savage ways. You only have to read about how some behave when there is a blackout, for instance, to realise this.

Madness…

If I had been born a thousand years ago, I might be considered an old man by this age. But as it is, I still have the feeling I’m not even a grown up, that the ‘eternal teenager’ tag my mother gave me many years ago has actually changed me somehow and while my body slows down and stiffens up, my mind is racing around like I’ve had far too much red cordial.

Maybe I’m mad. Actually, there is no doubt about it.  Just ask my wife.  She thinks I'm nuttier than a fruitcake but she loves me anyway.  In fact, she loves me BECAUSE I'm not the average garden-variety, misogynistic, middle-aged bloke.  And I wouldn't want to be any other way.  Besides, I believe we’re all mad, to a greater or lesser extent. I don’t mind thinking I’m mad. While it might absolve me from some of my behavioural tics, it also allows me to be able to experience the rawness of my emotions, to be uninhibited creatively and to leave myself open to all experiences, much as I did when I was a child. Much as we all did when we were children. Before we were told to ‘grow up’, ‘act our age’ and ‘stop being silly’.

I was watching a great movie recently called ‘What About Me’, a moving documentary that, according to one review, “gives a fascinating insight into universal issues and our collective insanity: how we are ego-driven, insatiable in desire, wounded by childhood and unable to stop thinking” (as good a description as any I might have written).

One of the interviewees postulates the idea that those of us who accept that we are essentially mad and therefore primarily flawed are actually happier, healthier and generally more at ease with the world around us. I don’t know if this is right but it struck a chord that is still ringing in my mind.

Motivation…

While I don’t have any problem accepting my insanity, my biggest problem at the moment is motivation. I’ve been writing a lot, but I don’t feel motivated enough to finish or post anything. I’m also playing a lot of guitar and enjoying music but not enough to knuckle down and record anything. Although I’ve been motivated enough to get myself to the gym 5 or 6 times a week (and enjoying every minute of it, by the way) my creative endeavors, those activities I love so much, just aren’t doing for me at the moment.

I know it sounds like I’m being a little tough on myself. I probably am, if truth be known. It is summer, I have been particularly busy at work and by the time I get home, after going to the gym, all I want to do is put my feet up and hang with my wife. I should cut myself a break but I can’t help feeling somewhat disappointed in my efforts.

Movies and Mediocrity...

Speaking of movies, we went and saw the Clint Eastwood soon-to-be-classic ‘Grand Torino’ last weekend. It is one of the very few movies I’ve seen in recent history that stirred me so much I had tears in my eyes. Why are there not more movies like this, movies willing to take a risk, ignore the stifling political correctness so pervasive in our society and really say something? It is absolutely superb in every sense of the word; acting, direction, story, script, cinematography, editing, costuming etc. When you compare this to some of the mediocre big-budget crap recently produced, it is a winner, even if it doesn't receive a single award.

I was surprised to see shorts for another movie while at the cinema. The surprise is because I can’t believe Hollywood decided to turn this particular book into a movie. The book and movie in question is ‘Angels & Demons, by Mr. Da Vinci Code himself, Dan Brown.

Now, let me clarify: I read ‘The Da Vinci Code’ and thought it was alright, a decent enough read with some interesting interpretations of the beginnings of Catholicism, in particular. I rated it about as much as I’d rate any pop fiction novel. In other words, I thought it was an enjoyable read and not disappointing. But then came the hype. Book sales went stratospheric and it looked as though a lot of people were taking the whole thing far too seriously.

Then came the movie. Again, it wasn’t badly acted, it followed the novel well and it didn’t make me regret spending the time to watch it. On the strength of all this, both my wife and I tried to read ‘Angels & Demons’ (don’t get me started on the use of the ampersand in the title – I’ll save that for another time).

In short, this book is absolute crap. It is badly written and filled with flaws so wide, you could sail an aircraft carrier through them. I’m not trying to be deliberately nasty either. It really is a dreadful novel. And now it is being made into a movie. I hope whoever wrote the script is okay because I’m sure if they hadn’t been sick from reading the book, they would have been constantly doubled over in laughter at the appalling writing. I don’t understand how it even got published in the first place. But somehow, it did and then it got through to the movie industry. This is yet another example of the celebration of mediocrity at its finest.

Motion…

I’m all for positive change, for moving forward through development of the physical, intellectual and spiritual facets of my life. My wife and I are looking forward to spending the next few decades living the way we want to live (baring anything unforeseen). We’re looking forward to moving to the tropics and setting up a new life for ourselves. We’re looking forward to leaving the city and all its dramas and violence behind. Are we a little scared? You bet we are. But isn’t life about taking risks, learning, growing and staying in motion, not becoming stagnant, glued to the couch and being under-stimulated?

Am I mad? You bet I am. And I’m loving it.


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on Feb 12, 2009

I call 46 the 46 and get your kicks tour! I started naming the birthdays when I hit 45. That was 45 and still alive tour! Somehow it makes it easier to swallow. I am alive and kicking but really have a tough time with the numbers.

I loved reading this and I think everyone should be comfortble in their madness. The world would be a better place. Happy Summer by the way.

on Feb 12, 2009

P.S. Grand Torino looks like vintage Eastwood. I love that guy.

on Feb 12, 2009

Kelly, I love the idea of naming birthdays.  I will have to think about it and see what I can come up with.  Sometimes I have moments where I have a big problem with the numbers too.  But mostly, I just get on and try to have as much fun as I can.

I'm glad you enjoyed reading this, by the way.  And I'm pleased you 'get' the madness thing too.  All of the people I love in this world are crazier than loons.  But this is why I love 'em.

Grand Torino is vintage Clint plus more.  You will love it. 

on Feb 12, 2009

Am I mad? You bet I am. And I’m loving it.

Madness is pure delight. 

~Zoo

on Feb 12, 2009

This was a delightful read!  Mad, crazy beautiful is more like it, that's what I say about myself too!lol!  Summer?  Geech I forget you guys are way down under!   Don't feel bad if you're not too motivated right now.  I'm on the same page too but I'm trying to get back in that spot again!  It is good to relax and enjoy life so don't worry, be happy! I'm so full of song titles aren't I?!  Hey, whatever tropics you go to, just make sure I know where, I might just get a bungalow next to yours and Toni's!   (aw the nightmare!)

on Feb 12, 2009

Zoo,

Madness is pure delight

Aint it just   Without wanting to sound confused, madness keeps me sane, if you know what I mean.

on Feb 12, 2009

Serenity,

Wow, as I was writing a response to Zoo, you were posting yours, I guess. 

Glad you enjoyed the read as much as I enjoyed writing it.  Isn't it wonderfully liberating to let go of inhibitions and simply enjoying life in all its madness?

I'm not being too hard on myself about my lack of motivation.  As you say, it is good to relax and enjoy life, which is what I'm doing.  I know I will be back on track soon enough.

As for you getting a bungalow next to us, it would a joy to have you living near by, I'm sure.  Imagine the fun we'd all have.

on Feb 13, 2009

Without wanting to sound confused, madness keeps me sane, if you know what I mean.

People who are truly crazy are the ones who think they're totally sane.

~Zoo

on Feb 13, 2009

The unhappiest time of my life was when I tried hard to be what I thought was normal, part of the "real" world.

Then I got tired of fakin.

And figured, pfft, I don't really know any of these "normal" people I'm trying to be.  Where did I EVER get the idea this is normal?

Here is something totally corny, but true. 

We're all like snowflakes (though I understand most men won't appreciate the comparison).  We look the same to anyone peering out the window..but when you get into the thick of the storm, not a single one of us is the same.  Each unique and wonderfully made kinda thing.

Grand Torino sounds good.  I like the tuff Clint Eastwood.  He just has the face for it.

As far as writing.  You'll swing back into the motivation.  Maybe your motivation is marinating.

Enjoy your summer!

on Feb 13, 2009

46…

I been thinking about the number 46, too. Rose and I got fortune cookies the other day and we both had 46 under our lucky numbers. I also had a dream where 46 played a big part.

Talking about the way people turn on each other during blackouts reminded me of the episode of The Twilight Zone where a neighborhood had a blackout and at the end people were fighting and trying to kill each other.

 

Madness…

I'm like you I think everyone is mad in some sort of way. Me, I'm completely silly. Rose and my family love me for it, too. How fucking great is that?

 Once you except your madness and flaws things get so much easier.

Motivation…

When it comes to writing I lack motivation. I have lots of ideas for articles but I never write them. I start them and discuss them with Rose but most of the time they never see the light of day. I have a theory on why that is. I'm a very competitive person and I'm very confident too sometimes bordering on cockiness. A lot of things come easy for me, but unfortunately writing isn't one. My grammar sucks and it seems like I can never get on paper what I have in my head. Fortunately, the people here in JU have been kind with comments and it gives me some motivation to keep trying. You don't know how the kind words from you, Roy, Kelly, Tova and others give me the desire to keep trying.

Movies and Mediocrity...

I still haven't seen Gran Torino. I do want to see it and so much more. I will take your word with Angels & Demons. I have no desire to see it. I didn't even see The DaVinci Code. I don't know why I just didn't.

What gets me about Hollywood is when they remake good movies. I always tell Rose, "Why do they remake good movies? If anything they need to remake BAD movies and make those better." But then I'm hypocrite because I loved The Departed and it was a remake. Then they remake a bad movie like Friday the 13th and I get pissed off a studio gave millions to make something so unoriginal.

Motion…

It may be scary but it sounds like such the right move. Moving forward is such a tricky thing. Well, for me it is. Being with Rose is such a wonderful thing that it makes my good qualities so much better but my bad qualities stay the same because I don't think of the bad ones because improving my good ones have fooled me into thinking I have become a better person. I definitely need to work on my bad qualities and move forward to becoming the person I can be.

 

Good article, mate, and great to see you. Hope to see some more articles soon from you. Hope you and Toni enjoy the rest of your summer.

on Feb 13, 2009

Zoo,

People who are truly crazy are the ones who think they're totally sane.

There is no doubt some mental conditions are an illness.  Hence the term.  But I'm not ill.  I'm fit, healthy and happy.  And absolute nuts!  I wouldn't have it any other way.

on Feb 13, 2009

How can you be mad if you know you're mad?

Like you, the disconnection I have with most around me is very evident.  I don't have many friends not because I'm a dick or hard to get along with but more because I find it difficult to understand or even, in some cases, tolerate how others live their lives.  I mean, they are free to do want they want, but I am constantly amazed at the levels of ignorance they surround themselves with, almost as if they're trying to cushion the wider world from their lives.

I've summed it up nicely when I state there are only two types of people in this world, me...and everyone else.

Yes, this works for me too.  But I'm pleased to say it also works for Toni as well, thankfully. 

I've tried to understand other people all my life, maso, and striven to *be* understood as well. However, the older I get the less important it seems.

I love people watching for this very reason.  I guess reality television performs the same sort of function.  It allows us to step inside and have a good look at other's lives without being involved.  Like you say, I'm not much interested in being understood by others anymore.  They either get me or they don't.  And I can't be bothered with the 'don'ts'.

Come to think of it, I have been certified, hahaha.

  Not just crazy but have the paperwork to prove it.  Excellent! hahaha...

But see, my friend, there's nothing really wrong with ME, it's the rest of the world's inhabitants that are fucked up. I can't help that and neither can you, so embracing your own 'madness' is the only 'sane' choice. After all, how could so many people be so wrong? The truth is, they can. Fuck 'em, who needs 'em anyway?

You are dead right here.  The only time I get annoyed about this is when someone who doesn't know me thinks they do.  I choose who I let see the 'real' me and it doesn't come out for just anyone.  They might think they have a handle on me but the reality is I'm the one in control of the situation.  I just like to let them think they are, hahahaha

There's a song or poem in there somewhere...mebbe you can dig it out.
And remember the old cliche...you have to grow old, but you never have to grow UP.

Yes, there is a poem in it somewhere.  And the thing about old cliches is they're often right.  Incidentally, I believe you had the 'hail' part right the first time.  But then, I'm a nutjob, so there is a good chance I'm wrong

on Feb 13, 2009

The unhappiest time of my life was when I tried hard to be what I thought was normal, part of the "real" world.

Then I got tired of fakin.

And figured, pfft, I don't really know any of these "normal" people I'm trying to be.  Where did I EVER get the idea this is normal? 

I think this explains why, despite outward appearances, there are so many unhappy people in the world today.  They have been brought up to believe they have to think and behave a particular way and anything else is not normal.  But as you know, the definitions of normal is purely subjective, often based on unrealistic ideals most are incapable of achieving.

We're all like snowflakes (though I understand most men won't appreciate the comparison).  We look the same to anyone peering out the window..but when you get into the thick of the storm, not a single one of us is the same.  Each unique and wonderfully made kinda thing.

I've always thought along these lines.  I am not a fan of template or cookie-cutter catergorisations.  I mean, it is not as though we're all ants living in a hive, where all our actions are controlled by pheromones. 

Logically, or so one would think, each of us, with a free will and mind of our own, are completely individual, unable to be defined by a text book.  I know I don't fit any one particular categorisation so why would the same apply to anyone else?

Grand Torino sounds good.  I like the tuff Clint Eastwood.  He just has the face for it.

Without giving anything away, it is his face that tells a great deal of the story.  His performance is absolutely moving and wonderful to watch.

As far as writing.  You'll swing back into the motivation.  Maybe your motivation is marinating.

Toni said pretty much the same thing.  She has been with me long enough now (in fact, tomorrow is the 7th anniversary of our first date) to know my cycles.  I will get back on track, I know.

on Feb 13, 2009

 

46…

I’ve been thinking a lot about this number lately. It is the age I will be in June this year. I’ve had nearly 46 years on Earth and I’m still like a wide-eyed child about its workings, in some respects. I like this. I like that there is so much in the world that still amazes me. It encourages me to seek, to learn, to experience and grow.

I think that the forties have in all honesty been my best decade so far -it's taken this long for me to figure a lot of shit out. And the shit I haven't figured out...well...I can see there's no real point in worrying about it anyhow.

What I don’t like is the myriad ways we turn can against each other. We seem so far removed from the days when we lived in the shadows of savagery, burning fires at night to keep the unknown at bay and fighting every day just to survive. While we may seem to be far removed, I look at some of the worst we do to each other and it looks as though we’re only ever one step away from reverting to those savage ways.

Heh, I see this every day. We really are animals you know.

Madness…

Ha! I think we've already plowed this ground! We're all as nutty as squirell turds!

Speaking of movies, we went and saw the Clint Eastwood soon-to-be-classic ‘Grand Torino’ last weekend. It is one of the very few movies I’ve seen in recent history that stirred me so much I had tears in my eyes. Why are there not more movies like this, movies willing to take a risk, ignore the stifling political correctness so pervasive in our society and really say something? It is absolutely superb in every sense of the word; acting, direction, story, script, cinematography, editing, costuming etc. When you compare this to some of the mediocre big-budget crap recently produced, it is a winner, even if it doesn't receive a single award.

Gran Torino kicked ass. I grew up under the wing of men identical to Eastwood's character in this movie. They're all dying out now and that makes me profoundly sad. I'm so grateful for all they taught me along the way.

 

on Feb 13, 2009
I've been thinking about the nubmer 46, too.  Rose and I got fortune cookies the other day and we both had 46 under our lucky numbers.  I also had a dream where 46 played a big part.
Okay, now that is synchronistic, to say the least.  Does this mean you'll both be coming out to visit us?  Oh, I hope it does.  I would love to have some of my JU friends come and hang.  It would be awesome.

Talking about the way people turn on each other during blackouts reminded me of the episode of The Twilight Zone where a neighborhood had a blackout and at the end people were fighting and trying to kill each other.

This is exactly what I mean.  But the sad thing is a lot of people really do behave like savages as soon as they think they can get away with it.  For all our societal moors and supposed civilised ways, it seems easy to forget and become cavemen again.

I'm like you I think everyone is mad in some sort of way. Me, I'm completely silly. Rose and my family love me for it, too. How fucking great is that?

I think we are the luckiest men in the world to have such open-minded, supportive women in our lives.  It is indeed fucking great and I never forget it.

Once you except your madness and flaws things get so much easier.

You said in a single sentence exactly what I was trying to say in a number of paragraphs.  Clever sod...

 

 

When it comes to writing I lack motivation. I have lots of ideas for articles but I never write them. I start them and discuss them with Rose but most of the time they never see the light of day. I have a theory on why that is. I'm a very competitive person and I'm very confident too sometimes bordering on cockiness. A lot of things come easy for me, but unfortunately writing isn't one. My grammar sucks and it seems like I can never get on paper what I have in my head.

I too have plenty of ideas and I write every single one of them down so I won't forget.  I even try to put together a quick synopsis so I capture the major elements of the idea.  I'm just not finding any motivation at the moment to continue on with writing the novel or any of the short stories I've got brewing.  Toni thinks it might be because I spend all day in front of a computer screen and the last thing I feel like doing when I get home is spending more time in front of a screen.  She may be on to something there.  Perhaps if I were doing a different kind of job, I'd feel more inclined to write at night.  I guess time will tell.

I admire the way you write, mate.  You have a wonderful turn of phrase and a very good imagination.  The only advice I have for you is to keep at it. 

 Fortunately, the people here in JU have been kind with comments and it gives me some motivation to keep trying. You don't know how the kind words from you, Roy, Kelly, Tova and others give me the desire to keep trying.

Isn't the support network here just wonderful.  It is why I keep coming back here too.

 

I still haven't seen Gran Torino. I do want to see it and so much more. I will take your word with Angels & Demons. I have no desire to see it. I didn't even see The DaVinci Code. I don't know why I just didn't.

You will love it, I'm sure.  As I said, 'The Da Vinci Code' is not a waste of time, even for someone like me who doesn't particularly like Tom Hanks.  But I don't think anyone should bother with 'Angels & Demons'.  I can't see how a badly written story could possibly make a decent movie.

I often wonder what Hollyweird thinks its doing with all the remakes.  Are they simply trying to invest a new generation in the same stories that worked for their generation?  Or is there such a lack of good stories that the only choice they think they have is to do remakes?  Either way, I tend not to want to see anything that hints at a remake.

 

It may be scary but it sounds like such the right move. Moving forward is such a tricky thing.

It can be tricky, particularly if one has a lot of baggage.  I'm lucky in that I've been able to shed a lot the crap I've carried with me over the years.  I'm also very lucky, as I said earlier, that I have such a wonderful person in my life in Toni.  She not only puts up with my silliness, she actually enjoys it.  She is as crazy as I am

We're all good and bad, as far as I'm concerned.  What distigushes us is what parts we allow to take control.  That you are able to recognise your bad qualities while working on your good qualities puts you well ahead of a lot of those who simply give in.  You ARE a good person, mate, and my life, for one, is richer knowing you.

Shine on, brother.

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